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ACTIVE 4
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| HDIF about how active I am in our children's schooling? |
| HDIF about how active I am in our children's sports or other activities? |
| How are we active in our community? HDIFAT? |
| How are we active in our parish or church? HDIFAT? |
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ACTIVELY 1
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| Am I actively involved in our children's religious formation? HDIFAT? |
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ACTIVITIES 29
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| How do our children's activities affect our relationship? HDIFAT? |
| HDIF about our parish or church activities? |
| HDIF about our family activities? |
| We have activities, jobs and careers. What about us? HDIFAT? |
| HDIF about participating in league activities (softball, bowling) with you? |
| Do I expect us to be involved in mutual activities? HDIFAT? |
| Do I look for self-worth in possessions or activities? HDIFAT? |
| HDIF about how active I am in our children's sports or other activities? |
| HDIF when our other activities become more important than the two of us? |
| HDIF about our activities in the marriage program? |
| HDIF when outside activities keep us from spending time with our family? |
| HDIF when I am not included in other people's activities? |
| HDIF when I put activities before our relationship? |
| HDIF when we put activities before our relationship? |
| What are my family's favorite springtime activities? HDIFAT? |
| HDIF about our involvement with our church / parish and the activities there? HDIFAT? |
| HDIF about the activities our children are involved in? |
| What are the activities that I most want to plan to do this Christmas? HDIFAT? |
| What are the activities we have planned that I want most to do this Christmas? HDIFAT? |
| During an average week, what activities enhance our relationship? HDIFAT? |
| In an average week, what activities work against our relationship? HDIFAT? |
| In an average week, what activities work to enhance our relationship? HDIFAT? |
| What activities are we involved in that cause friction in the family? HDIFAT? |
| What activities do I put ahead of the Lord? HDIFAT? |
| What activities strengthen our relationship with God and Church? HDIFAT? |
| What activities weaken our relationship with God and Church? HDIFAT? |
| HDIF when activities separate us? |
| HDIF when activities take the place of our lovemaking? |
| HDIF when I am left out of your activities? |
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ACTIVITY 10
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| Has our lovemaking become just an activity? HDIFAT? |
| What holiday activity or event do I feel the most stressed about? HDIFAT? |
| What new activity or interest could I make space for in my life? HDIFAT? |
| HDIF when some job or activity separates us? |
| What thing or activity would it be difficult for me to give up and why? HDIFAT? |
| How is our community helped by our activity in Encounter / Retrouvaille? HDIFAT? |
| Does a recreational activity keep us separated much of the time? HDIFAT? |
| What routine activity do I hate the most? HDIFAT? |
| Am I ready to give up some singles' activity that separates us? HDIFAT? |
| What activity helps me grow most as a Christian? HDIFAT? |
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ACTS 2
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| What acts of kindness did I do today? HDIFAT? |
| Would people say I am a spontaneous person who acts on impulse? HDIFAT? |
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ADAPT 1
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| Is it harder for me to adapt to a routine or to constant change? HDIFAT? |
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ADAPTABILITY 1
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| How would I rate our adaptability, yours to me and mine to you? HDIFAT? |
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ADDED 1
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| Since we added dialogue into our lives, am I experiencing you differently? HDIFAT? |
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ADDITIONAL 1
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| I would feel better about us if we could make these additional changes: _____. HDIFAT? |
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ADDRESS 2
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| Do I fight to win, to prove myself right, or to address what is dysfunctional in our relationship? HDIFAT? |
| HDIF when our dialogue goes beyond our emotions / feelings to address our needs? |
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ADJECTIVES 1
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| What two adjectives best capture the real me? HDIFAT? |
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ADJUST 3
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| Is it more important to see possibilities or adjust to facts? HDIFAT? |
| HDIF when I have to adjust to circumstances beyond my control? |
| How well am I able to adjust to new ways of doing things? HDIFAT? |
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ADJUSTMENTS 2
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| What kind of adjustments have I made since we married? HDIFAT? |
| What adjustments did we have to make when we were first married? HDIFAT? |
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ADMIRE 14
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| After a fight: What do I admire about your fighting spirit? HDIFAT? |
| I admire people who _____. HDIFAT? |
| The one thing I admire and love the most about you is _____. HDIFAT? |
| What do I admire most about my parents? HDIFAT? |
| What do I see in my people that I admire? HDIFAT? |
| What do I see in you that I admire? HDIFAT? |
| What qualities do I admire most in others? HDIFAT? |
| Whom do I admire that is a good example? HDIFAT? |
| Whom do I admire that is not so good an example? HDIFAT? |
| In what areas do I most admire or respect your emotions / feelings? HDIFAT? |
| What quality do I most admire in your mother / father? HDIFAT? |
| What special qualities do I most admire in you? HDIFAT? |
| What talent or quality do I most admire in you? HDIFAT? |
| Three people who admire me are _____. HDIFAT? |
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ADMIRER 1
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| How would I feel if I got a Valentine card from a secret admirer? HDIFAT? |
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ADMISSION 1
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| An admission of error is a sign of strength rather than weakness. HDIFAT? |
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ADMIT 12
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| After a fight: What irrational behavior can I admit to now? HDIFAT? |
| Do I admit when I am wrong? HDIFAT? |
| HDIF when I admit my fears? |
| HDIF when I admit my sins? |
| HDIF when I admit that I am wrong? |
| Am I more likely to admit my mistakes, or to try to cover them up? HDIFAT? |
| Am I strong enough to admit to my people when I make a mistake? HDIFAT? |
| Am I strong enough to admit to others when I make a mistake? HDIFAT? |
| Am I strong enough to admit to you when I make a mistake? HDIFAT? |
| Do I try to decide which emotions / feelings are OK to admit having? HDIFAT? |
| Is it easy or hard for me to admit my mistakes? HDIFAT? |
| Is it easy or hard for me to admit that I am wrong? HDIFAT? |
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ADMITTING 4
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| HDIF about admitting I am lost? |
| HDIF about admitting my mistakes? |
| I am very thankful about _____ but I have difficulty admitting it to you. HDIFAT? |
| Which is harder: admitting it when I am hurt, or asking you for forgiveness? HDIFAT? |
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ADOPTING 1
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| HDIF about adopting a child? |
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ADOPTIVE 1
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| HDIF about becoming an adoptive family? |
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ADULT 3
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| As an adult, am I closer to my mother or father? HDIFAT? |
| What do I want our children to be as an adult? HDIFAT? |
| What kinds of compliments have I received most often as an adult? HDIFAT? |
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ADULTS 1
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| Who has more fun, adults or children? HDIFAT? |
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ADVANCE 1
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| HDIF about taking on extra work to advance my career? |
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ADVANCES 2
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| HDIF when I make sexual advances toward you? |
| HDIF when you respond to my sexual advances? |
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ADVANTAGE 7
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| Do I have relatives who should take advantage of Encounter / Retrouvaille? HDIFAT? |
| Do I take advantage of opportunities to have a good time? HDIFAT? |
| HDIF when I need to trust someone who may take advantage of me? |
| HDIF when people take advantage of me or push me around? |
| HDIF when people take advantage of me? |
| Will we take advantage of the Sacrament of Reconciliation this Lent? HDIFAT? |
| Do I ever take unfair advantage of our love? HDIFAT? |