AFFECTING 8

How have our children been affecting our relationship lately? HDIFAT?

How do I see our finances affecting our relationship? HDIFAT?

How can I keep the winter doldrums from affecting me and those around me? HDIFAT?

Weather is affecting our moods. HDIFAT?

Which pressure in me is most affecting my dream for us today? HDIFAT?

What is the greatest pressure affecting me during the follow-up period? HDIFAT?

Do I see our sexual relationship affecting our whole relationship? HDIFAT?

How is today's society affecting our family? HDIFAT?

AFFECTION 7

How do I view the differences between affection and sex? HDIFAT?

How does your lack of response to physical affection affect my mood? HDIFAT?

How important is physical affection to me? HDIFAT?

When have I felt a negative emotion in response to physical affection? HDIFAT?

Do I tend to show affection to others, or do I keep my distance? HDIFAT?

Do we agree on how to show affection to each other? HDIFAT?

HDIF showing affection in front of our children?

AFFECTIONATE 4

HDIF about being affectionate in front of the kids?

Am I more affectionate or less affectionate than my parents? HDIFAT?

Do I see you as more or less affectionate than your parents? HDIFAT?

Am I more affectionate or less affectionate than my parents? HDIFAT?

AFFECTS 6

How long before missing dialogue affects our communication and closeness? HDIFAT?

How good our marriage is affects other marriages around us. HDIFAT?

HDIF about the way our lovemaking affects my self-image?

Do I consult with my people when a decision that affects them needs to be made? HDIFAT?

HDIF when our togetherness affects another marriage?

How does my / your traveling affects our relationship? HDIFAT?

AFFIRM 1

In what ways do I daily affirm my love for you? HDIFAT?

AFFIRMATION 1

Am I sometimes guilty of empty or insincere affirmation? HDIFAT?

AFFIRMED 5

How would I like to be affirmed and recognized by you? HDIFAT?

I need to be affirmed by you. HDIFAT?

Have I affirmed my love for you today? HDIFAT?

How have I encouraged or affirmed you today? HDIFAT?

HDIF about the way you affirmed your love for me today?

AFFIRMS 1

HDIF when you compliment me in a way that affirms my femininity / masculinity?

AFFORD 9

Do I worry that this romance stuff is expensive, and we cannot afford it? HDIFAT?

HDIF when I want something we cannot afford?

HDIF when the bills are due, but we cannot afford to pay them?

HDIF when we cannot afford a night out together?

HDIF when we see something we want but cannot afford?

HDIF when we want something we cannot afford?

HDIF when we would like to do something but cannot afford it?

HDIF when you want something we cannot afford?

When I want something we cannot afford, I feel _____. HDIFAT?

AFRAID 25

Do I behave as if I am afraid of intimacy? HDIFAT?

Do I build a wall between myself and others because I am afraid of being hurt? HDIFAT?

Do I ever keep quiet because I am afraid of starting a fight? HDIFAT?

HDIF when I want to be honest but am afraid of hurting you?

Sometimes, I am afraid other people will see me as _____. HDIFAT?

The main reason I am afraid to commit to you is _____. HDIFAT?

What strengths do I have that I am afraid to rely on? HDIFAT?

What strengths do I think I might have, but I am afraid to try or rely on? HDIFAT?

Am I afraid of making mistakes? HDIFAT?

Am I afraid of other people? HDIFAT?

Am I afraid of something that God would give me strength to overcome? HDIFAT?

Am I afraid that my parent's health problems will eventually manifest in me as I age? HDIFAT?

Am I afraid to care, for fear that the other person does not care? HDIFAT?

In what ways am I afraid to grow old? HDIFAT?

In what ways am I afraid to look ahead? HDIFAT?

What am I afraid of? HDIFAT?

What am I afraid to do? Why? HDIFAT?

What am I afraid to say to you during our lovemaking? HDIFAT?

Why am I afraid to tell you what pleases me? HDIFAT?

Why do I keep information from you? What am I afraid of? HDIFAT?

In what areas am I most afraid to tell the truth about myself? HDIFAT?

What am I most afraid of losing by negotiating a compromise with you? HDIFAT?

Be not afraid. When I consider these words of Jesus, HDIF?

HDIF when I let you know what I am really afraid of?

What did I not try because I was afraid of failing? HDIFAT?

AFTER 185

After a fight: Am I able to see your side? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Am I still bearing a grudge? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Am I still feeling hurt? Describe the pain.

After a fight: Am I still making excuses for my actions? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Am I still nurturing a bad mood? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Am I still pretending not to care? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Am I still surprised by the way I reacted? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Am I still surprised by your reactions? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Am I taking your pain seriously enough? HDIFAT?

After a fight: At what point do our arguments get out of control? HDIFAT?

After a fight: At what specific point did I get drawn in? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Could we have avoided this fight? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did I / we fight fairly or unfairly? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did I deliberately hurt you? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did I feel let down at any point? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did I issue an ultimatum? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did I let the fight ruin my whole day? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did I misrepresent or stretch the truth? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did I pout or cry just so you would feel sorry for me? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did I say things just for effect? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did I use exaggerations or absolutes? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did one of us act childish? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did one of us attribute sinister motives to the other? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did one of us bully the other? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did one of us insist on being right? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did one of us try to make the other feel guilty? Did it work? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Did we argue because we remember things differently? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Do I sometimes provoke fights even if I do not start them? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Do our rules allow us to take a break to cool down? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Do our fights at least end the cold war between us? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Do we always fight about the same things? HDIFAT?

After a fight: HDIF making up with you?

After a fight: HDIF now about things I wish I had done or said differently?

After a fight: HDIF when I see other couples fighting the way we fight?

After a fight: HDIF when we argue in front of our children?

After a fight: HDIF when we argue over our children?

After a fight: HDIF when we argue?

After a fight: How can I change to make confrontation more positive for us? HDIFAT?

After a fight: How can we avoid unproductive fights? HDIFAT?

After a fight: How can we benefit from this situation? HDIFAT?

After a fight: How can we make up? HDIFAT?

After a fight: How frequently do we argue? HDIFAT?

After a fight: How long was this fight in coming? HDIFAT?

After a fight: How many times have we had this discussion? HDIFAT?

After a fight: I fight with you because _____. HDIFAT?

After a fight: Is fighting a constructive means of communication between us? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Is it easy or hard for me to ask for forgiveness? Why? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Is there a way for us to deal with this in a more positive way? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Is there any pattern to our arguing? HDIFAT?

After a fight: On the surface, am I logical or emotional? HDIFAT?

After a fight: This will help you better understand my reaction: _____. HDIFAT?

After a fight: Was there an easier way? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What are the bad things about our fights? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What are the good things about our fights? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What caused my / your / our voices to be raised? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What could I have done to reduce my own suffering? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What could I have done to reduce your suffering? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What did I compromise to make peace? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What did I do to provoke you? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What did I do to shut you off? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What do I admire about your fighting spirit? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What do I dislike most about myself when I fight with you? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What do I think was your main point? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What do I think you are going through right now? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What have I learned about the way I handle conflict? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What have I learned about the way you handle conflict? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What irrational behavior can I admit to now? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What is my favorite weapon when I do not fight fair with you? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What is the most positive thing that comes out of it? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What issues still persist? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What led up to the fight? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What lessons have I learned? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What pitfalls keep our fighting from being constructive? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What specifically triggered my reaction? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What starts our fights? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What subjects cause us the most trouble? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What tender spots were touched and when? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What triggered the hurt feelings? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What type of fights do we have? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What was I feeling when I was silent?

After a fight: What was my main point? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What was the fight really about? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What was the worst fight we ever had? HDIFAT?

After a fight: What would I like to take back? Why did I say it? HDIFAT?

After a fight: When are we most likely to fight? HDIFAT?

After a fight: When did I feel most exasperated? What was that emotion / feeling like?

After a fight: When did I feel most like ducking out? What was that emotion / feeling like?

After a fight: When did I feel most trapped? What was that emotion / feeling like?

After a fight: When did I refuse to listen or ignore what was said? HDIFAT?

After a fight: When we fight, do we really know what we are fighting about? HDIFAT?

After a fight: When we fight, is one of us always the loser. HDIFAT?

After a fight: When you bring third parties into a fight, HDIFAT?

After a fight: Where did I fail to be completely fair to you? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Where was I unreasonable? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Who blamed who and when? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Who brings up painful subjects the most often? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Who got hurt? HDIFAT?

After a fight: Would it have helped to take a time-out? HDIFAT?

After experiencing the weekend, have I changed more or have you? HDIFAT?

After God forgives me, why cannot I forgive myself? HDIFAT?

After I forgive, do I remember the hurt or the reconciliation? HDIFAT?

HDIF before and after making a decision?

HDIF when we are close during and after our dialogue?

How much hugging and cuddling do I need before and after lovemaking? HDIFAT?

Do I ever hesitate to apologize after I have offended you? HDIFAT?

HDIF when we are in each other's arms after we make love?

What do I want done with my body after I die? HDIFAT?

Do I ever expend my spirit to the point of exhaustion chasing after the wrong things? HDIFAT?

How would I describe you to our children after your death? HDIFAT?

What am I doing to make the world a better place for those who come after me? HDIFAT?

How are we supporting couples after the follow-up period ends? HDIFAT?

HDIF when I see you cry after watching a movie together?

HDIF when we cry after watching a movie together?

HDIF hugging our son or daughter after I have disciplined them?

HDIF the day after our lovemaking?

HDIF when you say, We'll dialogue after the next TV program?

How would I feel after a death in our family this week? HDIFAT?

How would I feel after a thirty-minute brisk walk? HDIFAT?

Have I ever felt guilty after performing a sex act? Be specific. HDIFAT?

HDIF after a good dialogue?

HDIF after a night of entertaining friends in our home?

HDIF after being with superstitious people?

HDIF after doing a good deed?

HDIF after hearing the story of the prodigal son?

HDIF after I donate a pint of blood?

HDIF after I go to confession?

HDIF after I have exercised my right to vote?

HDIF after I have forgiven one of my people?

HDIF after I have forgiven you?

HDIF after I have had a fight with one of my people?

HDIF after I have said angry words that may have hurt you?

HDIF after I have said mass or given a service? HDIFAT?

HDIF after I have spent a sleepless night?

HDIF after re-reading the notebook I used as we experienced the weekend?

HDIF after we dialogue?

HDIF after we had experienced the weekend, but before we left the facility?

HDIF after we have had a fight?

HDIF after we have had a long laugh together? Does laughter help heal?

HDIF after we make love? HDIFAT?

HDIF after yelling at our children?

How would I feel if you unexpectedly gave me a hug after a hard day? HDIFAT?

HDIF immediately after I experienced the weekend?

HDIF immediately after we make love?

What did I first long for immediately after I was ordained? HDIFAT?

What did I first long for immediately after we experienced the weekend? HDIFAT?

What did I first long for immediately after we were married? HDIFAT?

Am I as close to my people as I was just after experiencing the weekend? HDIFAT?

Are we as close to each other as we were just after we experienced the weekend? HDIFAT?

HDIF about life after death?

HDIF knowing there is life after death?

Do I believe that making love after an argument or misunderstanding is an easy way out? HDIFAT?

HDIF when we make love after an argument or misunderstanding?

HDIF when you are coming home to me after a long trip?

HDIF when you hug me after a rough day?

HDIF when you reach out to me after an argument?

How do I want you to remember me after I die? HDIFAT?

My favorite way to have my people respond to me after church is _____. HDIFAT?

What was the greatest change, for me, after experiencing the weekend? HDIFAT?

HDIF when you change your mind after we have agreed on something, or made a decision?

What was the most important discovery I made about you as we experienced the weekend or after? HDIFAT?

HDIF when I find out, after the fact, that _____ has lied to me?

HDIF about starting over after a reversal or failure?

HDIF when am coming home to my people after a long trip?

HDIF when you can show me that I am a good person after all?

HDIF when I get a little time to relax after I get home?

HDIF about being reunited after death with you?

HDIF about returning to the daily routine after a long weekend?

HDIF about our financial status after the holidays?

HDIF when we do not talk after an argument?

Do I have a plan for what to do with my time after I retire? HDIFAT?

HDIF when we pray together after we dialogue?

HDIF about picking up after our children?

What does it mean when I do not pick up after myself? HDIFAT?

What was the first thing that worked against us after experiencing the weekend? HDIFAT?

What happens when I am still lonely or feel used after we make love? HDIFAT?

HDIF when you greet me warmly after a tough day?

Do I ever apologize to you after I have been forgetful? HDIFAT?

Do I ever apologize to you after I have been impatient? HDIFAT?

Do I ever apologize to you after I have been insensitive? HDIFAT?

Do I ever apologize to you after I have been rude? HDIFAT?

Do I ever apologize to you after I have failed to listen? HDIFAT?

Do I ever apologize to you after I have made you late? HDIFAT?

HDIF I am coming home to you after a long trip?

HDIF when I see you after a long day?

HDIF when I see you after a long separation?