AFTERNOON 1

HDIF when we spend an afternoon looking at scrapbooks?

AFTERNOONS 1

HDIF when I have a chance to take a nap on Sunday afternoons?

AFTERTASTE 1

Do I sometimes make jokes that leave a critical or unpleasant aftertaste? HDIFAT?

AFTERWARD 2

Should lovemaking be part of the healing process or reserved for afterward? HDIFAT?

When, while experiencing the weekend or afterward, did I really begin to listen to you? HDIFAT?

AGAIN 12

HDIF about starting to ride a bicycle again at my age?

When we leave each other, do we make the effort to part with loving words in case we do not see each other again? HDIFAT?

HDIF when I have to start a project over again?

If I could live my life over again, I would _____. HDIFAT?

If I could start over again, what would I change? HDIFAT?

HDIF when I become a married single again?

If I had my life to start again, what would I change? HDIFAT?

What good habit(s) would I like to start again? HDIFAT?

When I part with family or friends, do I make the effort to part with loving words in case I do not see them again? HDIFAT?

When I part with my people, do I make the effort to part with loving words in case I do not see them again? HDIFAT?

If I could experience the weekend again, what part would I re-live and why? HDIFAT?

When we first met, what made me want to see you again? HDIFAT?

AGAINST 10

If God is for us, who can be against us? HDIFAT?

HDIF when our children compete against each other?

In what areas or ways do I compete against my people? HDIFAT?

In what areas or ways do I compete against you? HDIFAT?

We tend to compete against each other in _____. HDIFAT?

Am I experiencing any anger directed against myself? HDIFAT?

How do I behave when things suddenly go against me? HDIFAT?

Do I hold a grudge against anyone? HDIFAT?

In an average week, what activities work against our relationship? HDIFAT?

What was the first thing that worked against us after experiencing the weekend? HDIFAT?

AGE 9

Am I afraid that my parent's health problems will eventually manifest in me as I age? HDIFAT?

Am I happier than my parents were at my age? HDIFAT?

Do I consider myself mature for my age? HDIFAT?

HDIF about going back to school at my age?

HDIF about learning a new language at my age?

HDIF about starting to ride a bicycle again at my age?

Do I reject prejudice based on race, gender, religion or age? HDIFAT?

HDIF about the changes in my physical appearance (weight, age)?

With what age group do I feel least comfortable? HDIFAT?

AGGRESSIVE 3

Does being aggressive make me uncomfortable? HDIFAT?

Describe a time when I felt aggressive. HDIFAT?

When I get pressure from you, do I tend to become more withdrawn or more aggressive? HDIFAT?

AGGRESSIVELY 1

When someone is aggressively angry with me, I feel _____ and I tend to _____. HDIFAT?

AGILE 1

If I could be remembered either as having an agile mind or a caring heart, which would it be? HDIFAT?

AGING 4

Are we stuck in the middle of taking care of grown children and aging parents? HDIFAT?

HDIF about my family's aging and health-related problems?

HDIF about my own aging? HDIFAT?

How well do I accept my own aging? HDIFAT?

AGO 5

HDIF about reminding a friend to return something borrowed long ago?

Long ago, I borrowed a book from a friend. HDIFAT?

Am I smiling more now than I was three months ago? HDIFAT?

Is your quality of life better or worst than 10 years ago? HDIFAT?

What do I wish I had known five years ago about sex? HDIFAT?

AGONY 1

HDIF knowing Christ died in agony to show His love for us?

AGREE 12

Does my conduct agree with my convictions? What does this say about the strength of my convictions? HDIFAT?

Do I agree with the statement that folks are better off married? HDIFAT?

HDIF when I agree to do it your way?

We hear and see values we do not agree with. HDIFAT?

Are we never going to agree about some issues? HDIFAT?

Is it easy for us to agree on decisions? HDIFAT?

When I want you to listen to me, do I also want you to agree with me? HDIFAT?

Do we agree on aims and goals? HDIFAT?

Do we agree on discipline? HDIFAT?

Do we agree on how to show affection to each other? HDIFAT?

HDIF when we agree on an important issue?

HDIF when you agree to do it my way?

AGREEABLE 1

Do I need to become more easy-going and agreeable, or more hard-driving and assertive? HDIFAT?

AGREED 2

HDIF about starting the year off with a budget we have agreed on?

HDIF when you change your mind after we have agreed on something, or made a decision?

AGUE 1

Do I ague with you to win, or do I argue to work out something in our relationship? HDIFAT?

AHEAD 13

The car ahead of me pays my toll? HDIFAT?

HDIF when we put our children ahead of us?

HDIF when you put the children ahead of us?

HDIF when I go ahead and make love even when I do not want to?

HDIF when you go ahead and make love even when you do not want to?

HDIF when I have a particularly hard job ahead of me?

HDIF enjoying the present versus anticipating what lies just ahead?

In what ways am I afraid to look ahead? HDIFAT?

HDIF when I have to put other people's needs ahead of my own?

When recently have I put your needs ahead of mine? HDIFAT?

Do I have to prepare ahead of time for problems, or can I improvise? HDIFAT?

What activities do I put ahead of the Lord? HDIFAT?

Someone ahead of me in the 8 item express checkout has 20 items? HDIFAT?

AIMS 1

Do we agree on aims and goals? HDIFAT?

AIR 1

HDIF about air bags in our car?

AIRPORT 1

HDIF when I say good-bye to you at the airport?

ALARM 1

HDIF when the alarm goes off in the morning?

ALBERT 1

You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein. HDIFAT?

ALBUM 4

HDIF when we go through the family album together?

HDIF looking through a photo album or scrapbook?

HDIF when we look at our wedding album?

When was the last time we looked at our wedding album together? HDIFAT?

ALCOHOL 9

Our children are tempted by alcohol, drugs, sexuality. HDIFAT?

How has alcohol affected our lives? HDIFAT?

HDIF at parties when guests have had too much alcohol?

On average, how much alcohol do I drink in a month? HDIFAT?

HDIF about our use of alcohol?

HDIF about our friends who abuse drugs or alcohol?

Do I use alcohol or drugs to relax or alleviate pressure? HDIFAT?

Do I use alcohol, caffeine, or nicotine? HDIFAT?

HDIF about the pain-killers that I use (alcohol, drugs, hobbies, TV)?

ALIENATED 1

When did I last feel alienated in our relationship? HDIFAT?

ALIKE 1

Here are two ways we are alike: _____ and _____. HDIFAT?

ALIVE 20

Do we have a magic formula for keeping our marriage fresh and alive? HDIFAT?

What risks should I be taking to keep our communication timely and alive? HDIFAT?

Describe the real joy it is just to be alive.

I am happy to be alive today because _____. HDIFAT?

How has dialoguing about Scripture made Jesus come alive for us? HDIFAT?

HDIF about keeping the Dream alive?

Do I see the awareness of God alive in our children? HDIFAT?

Jesus is alive. HDIFAT?

When our dialogue is alive and strong, I feel _____. HDIFAT?

When our dialogue is alive and strong, so is our prayer life. HDIFAT?

When our dialogue is alive and strong, so is our sexual relationship. HDIFAT?

When our dialogue is alive and strong, so is our _____. HDIFAT?

Do I see Jesus alive in our marriage? HDIFAT?

What can we do to keep our marriage alive and growing? HDIFAT?

The time I feel most alive is _____. HDIFAT?

What memory of our courting days is most alive today? HDIFAT?

Is our relationship alive and visible to other people? HDIFAT?

Is our relationship alive and well in the eyes of other people? HDIFAT?

How can we as a family keep the closeness of the Christmas Season alive? HDIFAT?

HDIF about keeping ethnic traditions alive in our family?